Unrequited love...

To be honest i was ashamed to accept my feelings. i was ashamed to face how i felt . I didnt have the guts to express how i felt to my beloved and even to my self. So i did what i do best. hide everything deep down inside. it was only recently that i began to evolve. For the first time in over 8 years i found my self confessing my love and feeling to my friends. I dont know how exactly i came out of my shell so abruptly. the important point is that i did although it took me a decade to face my feelings and emotions. What i gathered from this experience is that its very important to acknowledge ones own feelings. its a very liberating feeling. Dont expect everyone to understand how you feel, but at least allow yourself the kindness to accept and acknowledge how you feel about yourself and those around you, or even your situation in general. Its a catharsis really to stop fighting with yourself and just be who are, and feel what you feel.
sometimes we tend to want things we arent suppose to have. we desire the undesirable. we long to be with the people we know we cant have.
anyways whatever the reason on their side. unrequited love has its benefits as well.
we get to be in love with someone without the added responsibility of being in a relationship. this means no responsibilities no expectations no commitment etc. although its more heartbreaking and painful than having someone love you back. its still better than not being in love at all.
Some advice on unrequited love:
1.Confess your love to them,
2.if u cant do that then atleast tell someone u trust, at least someone know how u feel so that u dont suffer in silence.
3.List down all the positive and negatives of your love interest.if u cant be impartial then ask a friend to help you. for often when we are in love we don't see any flaws in our beloved.
4. Then see if someone else is showing interest in you? are you ignoring them because ur stuck in  love with some one who might never love you back.
5. don't waste away your life running after someone who doesnt want you. If they dont like you now chances are they will never fall in love with you later down the line. so stop wasting your time hoping and daydreaming. Wishing for someone to love u doesnt work especially when you know they are moving one with their life. you should do the same.
6. from my experience i can say make a rule of thumb, if your the shy kind falling for poeple who  you can not get your entire life. then Follow this rule set yourself a simple time period that you will devote to pursuing this love interest of yours and if by the end of the stipulated time you fail to have a mutual relationship then MOVE ON PERIOD.!! you tried and it didnt work.
7. If your like me who regularly requires a little tough love then ask a friend to slap you back to reality of how things really are.

Truth is its always better to be loved back, being in a mutual relationship is much more fulfilling and rewarding than being in a one sided relationship.